Tuesday, January 31, 2012

Happy Ending

Giving people your blog link/name has it's downsides sometimes (hi Catamaran batch! I love you!).
Like when you want to share projects that you're working on but can't because a certain sir also reads (hi Mr. A!)
and when you want to really vent about things but can't because it'll be used against you I'm sure. (Hi MIL!)
Really that had no relevance in what I am actually going to post about but I thought you should know that sometimes sharing is not always caring.

Today is the last day of January which means it's the last day of the "Beginnings" theme.
BlogHer had a really good prompt this afternoon that I wanted to end on.

 "Talk about an ending that made you happy."

Well okay BlogHer...if you insist.

When I announced my divorce, it was already decided months before then that that was in fact what would be happening. It has probably been the best decision that I have made in the past 5 years. When you think of divorce you don't always associate it with happiness. In fact that's probably the farthest thing from your mind. For me it was a scary decision & I contemplated it for almost a year. A year. When I finally made my decision, I was at peace with it. I was almost relieved to get it off of my chest. I sat down and told him firmly again that this is what I want and what I think would be best. We then finally came to an agreement that it probably was for the best.
It turned out that he was mainly scared of "change" and "the unknown".

and then, things started coming out and were confirmed.
that he cheated.

Which didn't upset me. I wasn't angry. I wasn't sad about it. I wasn't disappointed. In fact, I kind of already knew.  It just solidified my other reasoning's.

So really it was the best decision.

I couldn't be happier with things.
As of right now, like I said yesterday, the only thing we are fighting about is the car clicker & garage door opener.
I mean really? This could be so much worse than it is.

I'm also ecstatic to have moved on and to be truly happy.
I'm also happy that I get to share this with people who are going through the same thing.
You have no idea what it means to me to receive some of the emails that I do on a daily basis concerning the divorce. The fact that this little ol' blog of mine reaches to people about such a topic is mind blowing and it just makes me so grateful for the situation that I've been handed.

Don't get me wrong though, things are not always rainbows and unicorns. I definitely have my down days, just like any normal person would. But luckily the good days outweigh the bad.

With that said.

Is it April yet?


Blissdom Wear

I have two posts out today and three more posts scheduled for this week. 
I'm STILL in blogging mode!
So I'm taking this opportunity to post my outfit plans for Blissdom.

I've been asked numerous times what I plan on wearing y'all crack me up and what I plan on packing.
I asked Twitter last week "What your #1 must have item for Blissdom is?" and got tons of responses so I'll be posting those as well.

I'll be flying in on Wednesday afternoon. Since it will be a "travel day" the only thing I plan on wearing is jeans and a comfy shirt with cardigan.

Thursday: I've heard it can get chilly in some sessions and then warm in others so I've prepared myself with this and plan on wearing something of this sort:

Minus the sunnies of course and add a crossbody bag for the MacBook, swag, & gear for the day.
A great post can be found here on what to bring btw!

Thursday Night will be a black blazer, gold & white striped tank, dark jeans, and TB Revas.
Picture this except not. But close. 

work with me people.

For Friday's session I'm still going with the comfy theme along with I'll probably be cold theme:

Paired with a white sweater.

Friday Night: Word is is that this is the night to get dolled up. Uhm Hello? I haven't been truly dolled up in YEARS. So yes please!

 The less I pack the better it is for the other people on my flight so I'm hoping to re-use some items like the Blazer, jeans, and flats. 

Saturday Sessions: Back to the basics.

But more so something a long these lines since this is what I own.

Long jeans, yellow flats, and a flowy top. Of course paired with a cardi and belt.

Saturday Night is pajama night! 
(correct me if I'm wrong ladies!)

I'm not 100% sure I am attending this night. I can't justify spending time in my pjs like this since this is a "work conference" for me technically. haha 

I'll be leaving Sunday mid morning & if everything goes well I'll be re-using one of the casual outfits. In case you were wondering.
and if you're on my plane, well then you're welcome for my carefully packed bag.

Per Twitter and past Blissdom attendees the top items to bring are:
MacBook or Laptop. 
iPad is not recommended, apparently the sessions move to fast to finger swipe notes.
Business Cards (I bought mine here)

If I am missing anything let me know!

What is on YOUR "must bring" list?

Happy Friday Y'all!

Monday, January 30, 2012

Hello 25

Before I get into this post and the past weekend I want to share some instructions with you.
Thanks Mama B for posting again!

It's IMPORTANT, I can't stress this enough, how important it actually is as a blogger to have your email address available so other blogger can reply back to your comments.

You have no idea how frustrating it is when I go to respond or reply and CAN'T because it has the "noreply-comment@blogger.com" address.
Here are some quick instructions on how to fix this issue on your blog:
1. Click on the Customize link in the upper right hand corner of your screen.

2. Click on the Dashboard link in the upper right hand corner of your screen.

3. Click Edit Profile, which in on the left hand side of the screen next to your profile picture.

4. This will take you to the Edit User Profile screen.

5. Look in the Privacy section.

6. Click on the box that says, "Show my email address."

7. In the Identity section, enter in an email address.

8. Scroll down to the bottom of the screen and click on Save Profile.

Moving On.

Yesterday I turned a quarter of a century old. 25. Twenty Five.
and for the first time I actually felt older.
Not in a bad way though. I've got so much to look forward to this year and I've got so much to be grateful for. 

Who knew that I would have completed my first half marathon before I turned 25?
Who knew that I would be married & getting a divorce by 25?
Who knew that I would have a sweet baby girl by the time I was 25? I was planning on boys people.
Who knew that I would have bought a house & moved out with 6 months of buying it but living on my own somewhere else by the time I was 25?
Who knew...well you get the point.

I feel older but I feel more like an adult and more like a mom than I ever have.
I'm so excited to see what this year brings.
Yesterday was such a relaxing day spent in Target & Starbucks.
That's how you know you're getting older.
not an ounce of alcohol was consumed.

OOTD:Chaps Boat neck tee, Chaps jeans (size 8 finally WEE), & Tory Burch Revas.

My accessory of course was a grande no whip mocha along with my Kindle Fire.

Along with the newest addition to my purse family.

Let me just add that this purse only cost me $71! SEVENTY ONE! Originally $295!
Thanks to Shop It To Me, this was the best birthday present to myself.
After a few hours at Starbucks reading and blog posting, I came home, cleaned, and waited for 6 pm so I could go get Kins.

Which was the perfect ending to an amazing 25th birthday.

next up: a restaurant review

Happy Monday Y'all!
don't forget! If you have a question please go here! Questions will be answered on Wednesday!


Lazy Sunday

What better way to spend your birthday then sitting in Starbucks on your Kindle fire thanks babe! reading blogs & tweeting? Its been a good day so far. Now I just need my little miss here with me & it would be perfect :) Start em' young right? at Starbucks

While I was reading blogs I came across this random questionnaire thing. I mean really what else can I do here? Ive already read all of my gossip and news & have had my fair share of coffee.

You are welcome.

1.What time did you get up this morning? 6:55a Bc I'm a little kid.

2. How do you like your steak? Medium well

3. What was the last film you saw at the cinema: Valentines Day

4. What is your favourite TV show? Big Bang Theory

5. If you could live anywhere in the world where would it be? Anywhere but murder capital of the world

6. What did you have for breakfast? Pancakes

7. What is your favorite food? I am loving couscous right now! & kalmaltive (sp?) olives

8. Foods you dislike? Green beans,eggplant

9. Favorite place to eat? Chart House, Salt Life Food Shack, Stan's, and J Alexanders

10. Favorite dressing? Honey Mustard

11. What kind of vehicle do you drive? Toyota Venza her name is ViVi ha!

12. What are your favorite clothes? Jeans & boat neck tees or skinnies with a cardi

13. Where would you visit if you had the chance? Italy or Tel Aviv

14. Cup 1/2 empty or 1/2 full? 1/2 full usually

15. Where would you want to retire? No idea. I don't think ill ever retire ha!

16. Favorite time of day? Late afternoon, early evening.

17. Where were you born? Edinburgh,Scotland

18. What is your favorite sport to watch? College football

19. What is your favorite fragrance? I love the Vera Wang princess but I'm IN love with the Kate Spade twirl

20. What is your favorite face cream? Mary Kay of course

21. Favorite baby/kids products? She She Made monogrammed & personalized clothes! Seriously.

22. People watcher? Oh yeah.

23. Are you a morning or night person? I'm really a middle of the day person.

24. Do you have any pets? Nope, killer is at my aunts house now.

25. Any new and exciting news you'd like to share? Nope ha!

26. What did you want to be when you were little? In the Air Force as a lawyer

27. What is your favorite memory? Seeing Kins for the first time and pretty much anything she does lol

28. Are you a cat or dog person? Both

29. Are you married? Yes? But almost not ha!

30. Always wear your seat belt? Yes, yes, yes! Always.

31. Been in a car accident? Yes.

32. Any pet peeves? Slow drivers, bad grammar, smacking your food, windshield wipers lol

33. Favorite pizza toppings? Cheese

34. Favorite flower? Promise and hydrangeas

35. Favorite ice cream? STARBUCKS mocha lol

36. Favorite fast food restaurant? Panera, chic fil a

37. How many times did you fail your driver's test? Zero.

38. From whom did you get your last email? Facebook

39. Which store would you choose to max out your credit card? Target, Nords, or Macys

40. Do anything spontaneous lately? I ate two cupcakes? Ha!

41. Like your job? Yep!

42. Broccoli? Bleck

43. What was your favorite vacation? hmmm so far the first time that I went to the Bahamas. but other than that, I'm sure I have a lot of fun ones coming up though :)

44. Last person you went out to dinner with? Mr Anon.

45. What are you listening to right now? people talking on the phone

46. What is your favorite color? Pink of course but I am loving sea green right now!

47. How many tattoos do you have? 5!

48. Coffee drinker? Is the Pope Catholic? Of course I'm a coffee drinker.

Happy Sunday Y'all!

Friday, January 27, 2012


 that's supposed to be me lurking baha!
Since I have quite a bit of new followers Hi!!! (&lurkers!! say hi!) and since I get numerous emails/DM's through out the day and I love interacting with each of you. holy run on sentence.

I'm opening up the floor errr blog for your questions!

Have a question about something? Or want to know a little bit more? 
If your new (or old) say Hi! and tell me something about yourself as well! 
Questions will be answered next week on the blog!


Thursday, January 26, 2012

Where's the Vino?

I think it's safe to say that I have given up on NaBloPoMo.
I've got nothing as of late. I have random funnies here & there, but not enough for a full post.
Plus? You get to read those tangents on Twitter, so why be redundant?

 When it comes to the divorce nothing is new. My car clicker is still being held hostage. I have the garage door opener as a bargaining tool. One that's failing miserably obviously but that's not the point.
We still can't come to an agreement on pretty much anything concerning K, it would be so much easier and cheaper if he would just.listen.to.me.and.agree

We do have a final date now and that's sometime in April. So that's good.

Folks, this is draining. Completely and utterly draining.
I feel like I've ran 5 1/2 marathons in one week.
Do the math. 
You know...since it took me 3:34 to finish my first one & a week to recover. 
I'm still hungry from that race and it's been 3 months.

I want to crawl into bed and sleep for a month. Le sigh.

Last night was a "special" night and was celebrated by going out to The Chart House in downtown Jacksonville.
Arriving via limo.
 Sorry that's the only picture I have of the limo for the night. Sads.
Here's the stock one of it though from the site.

We started off with an amazing appetizer called "East Meets West Tuna" 
("zesty tuna tartare drizzled with wasabi cream paired with seared
peppered tuna & avocado, with kim chee slaw & plantain chips")
Followed by the Main Dish of "Chicken Romano".
 ("pan-seared with a blend of Romano cheese & panko breadcrumbs, with
lemon shallot butter, tomatoes, asparagus & Yukon gold mashed potatoes")
Which I inhaled before remembering that I needed a picture.
I had the same dish in Savannah when I was there for the 1/2 Marathon though.
Same goes with dessert which was "Creme Brulee". 
I dove into it like it was the last dessert on earth.
No pictures of that either.
See why I'm not a food blogger? Good at eating the food, but horrible at taking pictures of said food.

Once we left The Chart House we headed to the fountain downtown because the driver said there was a "Vegas style show". 
Sure. Why not? We're sober at this point and nothing says get.me.a.drink right.this.second. like a masquerade of singing lights in the cold.

After the lights that failed to have music were seen, we headed home. 
All in all, a good time was had and even better food was consumed.
Now..where's my vino?

Happy Thursday y'all!


Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Pinwheel Party

There's only ONE MONTH left until the big day and what have I got done?
Nothing. NADA. Zip. Ziltch.

No bueno.

I need this lady. and I need a lot of other crafty ladies by my side this next month.
Can I Bah Hum Bug a birthday?
The pinwheel theme has quickly become one of my favorites for K's first birthday party. My issue is that I'm having a hard time committing. As with pretty much anything these days. Seriously you don't even want to know how long it took me to commit to a comforter and sheet set. Who does that?

For months I've been "pinning" things with the "pinwheel theme" and this is what I've come up with so far.

I NEED to do this with big balloons for Miss!

I love the cotton candy option. Such a fun alternative to the usual candy and cookies.


If I can pull this off in one month...well then the birthday gods are on my side and K is one lucky, spoiled little girl.


Thursday, January 19, 2012

One of *those* moments

Last night I had one of those moments.
A moment where you see a screaming kid and just want to snatch him up and yell at him for acting a fool.

I had to go to Publix last night to pick up a few items. As I parked & was getting Kins out of the car, I hear a child screaming. Obviously wanting something & not getting it screaming. His dad kept saying "No. They are closed" "Lets go" "I'm going to call your mother" ahh now I see who is the disciplinary is. "Stop it. Stop it right now."

Kins & I walk to the buggy. I put her in, strap her all in while playing with her, and then? AND THEN.
I SEE this kid literally throw himself on the ground behind me. Let me add that he's probably a good 6 or 7 years old. He throws himself at his dads legs. His dad walks away. The kid gets up, runs to his dad (all while screaming bloody murder), and THROWS himself again! Repeat 3 times down the aisles.
His dad does...nothing. Just keeps walking away.

It took everything I had to keep myself from walking over there and grabbing that child to tell him to stop acting like a hooligan and behave. 

So instead I kept going in the other direction, made a face at another guy who was just as flabbergasted as I was, and told Kinsley to never, ever act like that.
She only smiled.
Smart child of mine :)



Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Don't Censor the Web

If you live under a rock or only tweet about your outfits then you probably have no idea what this means. 
Pay attention. 
Because this? is HUGE.

Especially for little ol' blogs like mine and yours.
For businesses all across America.
Here's a little insight in case you haven't heard.
PIPA (Protect IP Act) and SOPA (Stop Online Piracy Act), two bills going before Congress, would censor the Web and impose harmful regulations on American business.

Fighting online piracy is important. The most effective way to shut down pirate websites is through targeted legislation that cuts off their funding. There’s no need to make American social networks, blogs and search engines censor the Internet or undermine the existing laws that have enabled the Web to thrive, creating millions of U.S. jobs.

Too much is at stake – please vote NO on PIPA and SOPA.


View Opponents of PIPA and SOPA.

Please Please PLEASE go and sign the petitions.

You can do so here:





Word on THAT

Remember when I told you that apparently I was joining the Navy and had no idea?

Well the fun doesn't stop there my friends. 

Apparently M has found his lawyer on 1-800 ask Gary because it's a whole world of ebonics up in chherrah.

That's right folks. 
It says "Dissolution FO Marriage".

Which brings me to this:

Word on that Antonie Dodson.

How is this my life?

In other news, I am raising a fine young lady.
Such a good little helper.
Next lesson is holding the Shark mop.
I think I am making huge strides in her growth and development.

 Happy Wednesday Y'all!

Monday, January 16, 2012

Vino Escapades

Something that Duval county has wrong when it comes to divorces is that you have to take a "Child First" class in order to actually get the divorce. (if you have children obviously). This Saturday morning was spent sitting in the class for 4 hours. It was worse than a Drivers Class for speeding. So so bad. When you have a 10 month old it's kind of hard to pay attention to a class that was predominantly elementary and middle school aged kids involved. 
Things I did learn though:
  • Jacksonville is the #1 murder capital in America.  
  • It's the #1 domestic violence area of America.
  • Jacksonville has a 60% rate of divorce. Which is also one of the highest areas. They blame the military for that as well since we are a Navy town. See? Doomed to begin with. 

So basically the class was a waste of four hours that I could have been tasting more wine instead.

Which brings me to Saturday afternoon.

Wine testing & touring at the San Sebastian Winery with Mr. Anon.
Except they failed to announce that there were no tours on Saturdays.
So we walked around& tasted wine here & there randomly ourselves. 
I have to say that along with the no notice of no tours on a Saturday, the wine was disgusting,
I guess I've been spoiled with German wine and cheap French dessert wines for so long that local wine is horrible.Also? The pictures on the site? Nothing like what you see when you get there. There are no vineyards only downtown St. Augustine and industrial buildings. It's next door to a police station and across the street from a section of Flagler College. 

Very disappointing.
So once I got home I loaded up a plate of my own cheese
poured some of my FAVORITE wine
Added some chocolates
and had a happy Sonja! 
So yummy! Much better than the winery afternoon.

What did you do this weekend? Any vino escapades?
Happy Monday Y'all!