Friday, September 21, 2012

Practice What You Preach


Let's get one thing straight before I start this blog post.

I'm a Christian. I've always been a Christian. Raised Mormon to be exact. I fell out of my faith for a while because it was pushed so hard but recently, and by recently I mean the past year, I have found that faith and love again for Him. Really, really found it. I wouldn't change it one bit. Or how it happened. I wouldn't change a thing.

Let me also add that I am in NO WAY the perfect Christian. Or person. No one is and no one will be. But you know what's great about my God? He doesn't care. He doesn't care how imperfect you are. But what he does care about? Is how His Christians treat each other and others. (among other things of course but my point for the post is how to treat others lol)

Which brings me to this. I do not understand the women who write everyday about their faith and exclaim just how great He is then in another post, tweet, etc they are judging other moms or raining on other people's parades. You know better than that. For starters it's common sense to be nice to others but as women and as mothers we should be even more supportive and encouraging.

This isn't new news in the blogging world. Or the world for that matter. But it drives me bat shit crazy that judgies are throwing their views around and knocking other moms down.

Just because you see things differently doesn't give you the right to demean someone else or to push your beliefs and judgements on them. I have seen so many women in this blog world do just that.

If you are a Christian. BE ONE. Stop being a hypocrite. Being a Christian doesn't make you any better than anyone else. It's your job to TEACH and to be an EXAMPLE.

Would you tell your children that it's okay to be judgey towards someone else or to exclude someone else just because they didn't believe what your children did? Or to exclude them and talk about them because their clothes aren't monogrammed or they aren't wearing the "right brand" for that year?

I would hope not. So why would you be that way? Your children are what you show them.

Be the Christian, the woman, the person that you are supposed to be.

Edit: I started this post Tuesday evening. Wednesday morning I was reading through my Google Reader and was fired up not in a good way about someone's post that I read. Which furthers my beliefs in my own post because it's just infuriating!

I was judged last year. I had extremely hurtful things said to me that I didn't deserve. They didn't know the whole story, no one knew the whole story. YOU NEVER KNOW THE FULL STORY OF SOMEONE'S LIFE. I was automatically judged on something these people "saw" without knowing the whole truth. Was I ready to share last year? Nope. That's why you didn't know what was going on until later on. Was it really any of their business? Not at all. But because I trusted them I told them a little bit of what was going on. Big mistake.

This year? I got a message saying "I've been praying and I forgive you for what you've done". I'm sorry but that is not a Christian. You judged me. I didn't do anything to be "forgiven" for. If anything I should be the one praying for you and forgiving you.

With that said, practice what you preach ladies. Remember you never, ever know the full story of what someone is going through.



Happy Friday Y'all!

9 comments:

Marci Smith said...

Amen, amen, amen! As Christians, we are supposed to build each other up, not tear each other down. I believe we do Satan's work for him when we are judgey, mean, and critical. When we behave in those manners we certainly are not giving God's love away. I say we all take a stand and love through differences. Let's remember to always keep the Kingdom our main focus. Thanks for sharing! You are loved by YOUR King!! Xoxo

Megan Card said...

Love you, Sonja :) And you have every right to virtually slap me across the face should I EVER portray this kind of message on my blog or on Twitter. I give you full permission :)

Julianne @ Bogs and Bows said...

Oh I could go on and on with this one. But let's just say I recently saying they understand the shame I must be feeling & the struggle I will have to find God again & regain my spot in heaven. I'm not kidding. Why should I have shame? I must have missed something in my marriage that they knew better than I. And when did I lose my God or my "spot in Heaven"? It hurt me, made me question myself for a hot minute then just pissed me off. Who are they? Why do they think they know so much? Why are they suddenly in a position to judge?

AmandaS said...

Love! I feel this way exactly!

Patricia Robertson said...

It is very strange that I was thinking of writing a post sort of similar to this. It has been weighing on my mind a whole lot lately. I am not at all saying I have never made a judgement or said something degrading because unfortunately I have. I have to say I completely understand where you are coming from on others judging you because the same thing happened to me about a year and a half ago. I was judged so much that it pushed me away from God. I was so lost I questioned everything. I didn't know what was right and wrong. It was a very dark time in my life. To be completely honest it took me over a year to get to a place where I was ready to deal with it and move forward with my relationship with God. I tell myself all the time I hope I do not make anyone feel that way. Thank you so much for sharing.
Patricia
www.thettdiaries.com

Cary Dale Taylor said...

I agree that as Christians we are called to a higher standard. A standard of love. I hate when people are mean and judge mental. You are right everybody has a story that as an outsider we will never understand. I hate when people are mean to each other.

Melissa Jo said...

Love love LOVE this. As Christians we are called to love Him and love his people. Part of that is having a heart that is as true as yours! Have a great week doll!

Melissa said...

This post is so true and so open .. Thank you! Have a wonderful week!

My name is Jessica said...

I love the behavior quote! Good reminder, huh? I'm following along from the southern blog hop where I get to link up as a southern belle for a day!
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